Without thinking too hard, ask yourself these two questions:
- What do I really want the most?
- What does God want for me?
Maybe you want to travel? A dream job? No debt and more money? Get married and start a family?
There’s so many things I hear people complain about how they want more of this and less of that. Or, I even hear people briefly share their biggest desires yet they don’t have a plan. So, do they really want it or could it be just a “fantasy dream” they have? Or in other cases, we sometimes accomplish what we want, but then we realize that it was only a temporary happiness.
Here’s what I think. Now that i’ve grown more spiritually, I notice that my desire has not changed but the way I view it has. As a kid, I loved to watch Disney’s “Cinderella” movie all of the time. I grew up having the image of the ” perfect prince charming” and the “perfect marriage” and how life would be so much better if someone completed me. How wrong was I!!! I’m sure most people can relate after their first year of being married or living with a boyfriend/girlfriend. Nothing is perfect and no one can complete you. That is your job to feel complete and the only way to understand what “complete” really means is by getting to know Christ. Believe me, I was once very naive and never understood or wanted to accept this answer when I asked for advice on finding happiness…
What I know now is that my desire hasn’t vanished, but it has grown deeper yet different as I continue to learn God’s way of having the privilege to know who you really are and what you’re supposed to bring to the table in a relationship. Love isn’t selfish rather it should be selfless. First of all, you NEED to have a Christ centered relationship, CHOOSE to love that person unconditionally, and TRUST that God placed you together to grow and learn from each others differences.
“These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.” ~John 15:11
Do you get it?! We all have a desire that we continue to want and God knows what that is. Realize that just because what you have always wanted hasn’t worked out the way you have wished for, God has wanted that for you as well, yet He desires that you look up to Him first and always for your joy and success for whatever it is that you want! Change your ways but keep your desires and notice how much more peace and confidence you’ll gain by trusting God. Now, I am not where I want to be, but I am glad I am not where I used to be and i’m excited to continue sharing my journey with you…
It’s not easy changing old habits, but it gets better when you realize that doing things differently does work. Trust God, and do good!